{"id":21883,"date":"2013-10-05T12:01:54","date_gmt":"2013-10-05T19:01:54","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/oooorgle.com\/BeyondTheCorral\/?p=21883"},"modified":"2016-10-04T17:50:04","modified_gmt":"2016-10-05T00:50:04","slug":"fake-narcissistic-or-true-friend","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/oooorgle.com\/BeyondTheCorral\/fake-narcissistic-or-true-friend\/","title":{"rendered":"Fake, Narcissistic &#8211; Or True Friend"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"http:\/\/youtu.be\/_ld79VZDNT0\" target=\"_blank\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/oooorgle.com\/images\/Narcissism.png\" alt=\"\" hspace=\"5\" align=\"left\" \/>Sam Vaknin<\/a> | A TRUE friend supports you only when he believes that you are doing the right thing in your self-interest and welfare;<\/p>\n<p><br clear=\"left\"><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" width=\"420\" height=\"315\" src=\"\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/_ld79VZDNT0\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><br \/>\n<a href=\"http:\/\/youtu.be\/_ld79VZDNT0\" target=\"_blank\">http:\/\/youtu.be\/_ld79VZDNT0<\/a><\/p>\n<p>A FAKE friend supports you always, no matter what you do.<\/p>\n<p>A TRUE friend respects you only when you have earned respect and act respectably;<\/p>\n<p>A FAKE friend &#8220;respects&#8221; you regardless of your behavior &#8211; or misbehaviour.<\/p>\n<p>A TRUE friend trusts you only as long as you prove yourself trustworthy, only while you do not put his trust to the test too often, and only on certain issues;<\/p>\n<p>A FAKE friend &#8220;trusts&#8221; you with everything and always.<\/p>\n<p>To summarise:<\/p>\n<p>A TRUE friend puts to you a mirror in which you see REALITY and the TRUTH.<\/p>\n<p>A FAKE friend puts to you a mirror in which you see your own reflection, yourself and nothing else besides.<\/p>\n<p>A TRUE friend loves YOU in your friendship. He loves YOU even without your friendship.<\/p>\n<p>A FAKE friend loves HIMSELF in your friendship &#8211; or loves the friendship itself, but never YOU.<\/p>\n<p>With a TRUE friend you need never ask: &#8220;what is he getting out of this relationship?&#8221; for loving you is its own reward.<\/p>\n<p>With a FAKE friend you must always ask &#8220;why is he still in this relationship?&#8221; for loving you is never enough of a reward.<\/p>\n<p>(From the book &#8220;<a href=\"http:\/\/www.narcissistic-abuse.com\/thebook.html\" target=\"_blank\">Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited<\/a>&#8221; by Sam Vaknin<br \/>\n<br clear=\"left\"><\/p>\n<p>Also See:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"http:\/\/youtu.be\/_lmq3_DsEcc\" target=\"_blank\">Psychopath? 5 Red Flags and 3 Rs Test: Remorse, Remediation, and Restoration<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Sam Vaknin | A TRUE friend supports you only when he believes that you are doing the right thing in your self-interest and welfare; http:\/\/youtu.be\/_ld79VZDNT0 A FAKE friend supports you always, no matter what you do. A TRUE friend respects you only when you have earned respect and act respectably; A FAKE friend &#8220;respects&#8221; you [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[290,295],"tags":[1311],"class_list":["post-21883","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-book","category-video","tag-narcissism"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/oooorgle.com\/BeyondTheCorral\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/21883","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/oooorgle.com\/BeyondTheCorral\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/oooorgle.com\/BeyondTheCorral\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/oooorgle.com\/BeyondTheCorral\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/oooorgle.com\/BeyondTheCorral\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=21883"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/oooorgle.com\/BeyondTheCorral\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/21883\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/oooorgle.com\/BeyondTheCorral\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=21883"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/oooorgle.com\/BeyondTheCorral\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=21883"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/oooorgle.com\/BeyondTheCorral\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=21883"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}